Tags: Celebrity Relationships, exes, Matchmaking
I don’t follow a lot of celebrity gossip, but I remember seeing tabloid photos and headlines of the Kate Moss/Pete Doherty relationship, and it wasn’t pretty.
Their tumultuous two-year relationship was marred by drug use and jealous rages, finally ending in 2007.
While Moss has moved on, Doherty isn’t out of her life — she’s trying to be his matchmaker, according to a recent AOL UK article.
Sounds sweet, but maybe not the best idea at this time — the girl she has in mind for her ex is the band mate of her current boyfriend, Jamie Hince of The Kills. Maybe a little too close for comfort?
Questionable dating and matchmaking skills aside (I mean, would you take dating advice from Kate Moss?), is it ever a good idea to set up your ex?
In my experience, it rarely works out in your favor. If the new couple hits it off, you probably just lost a friend, because while you want to have lots of things in common with your friends, dating histories isn’t one of them.
Admittedly, I’m not one of those overly well-adjusted people who is totally cool with their friends sleeping with their exes, but not for the obvious reasons. I can get past the whole sex thing and jealously (I think), but I’m not a fan of the dating dirt that is often dug up when a new relationship begins, especially when the dirt is about me.
And while at the time I think I’m doing my ex a favor, I’m probably not doing myself any by keeping past relationships in the present, possibly upsetting my current main squeeze.
But that’s just me.
Source: AOL UK
Tags: conflict resolution, marriage sucks, Matchmaking
But when the athlete shows his strips ends up cheating on his wife with not one, but almost a dozen cut-rate barflies, do you also become responsible for the crappiest marriage of the century?
That’s what happened to Swedish golfer Jesper Parnevik and his wife, Mia, who introduced their former nanny, Elin Nordegren, to Tiger Woods in 2001. He was quoted saying “they are a perfect match,” when they their relationship became public, and explained that Tiger had begged him to set them up.
But one marriage, two kids, and, eight years, and nine mistresses (and still counting) later, Parnevik recently expressed their regret for setting up the two, and publicly apologized to Elin for his mismatch.
“I feel really sorry for Elin, since me and my wife were at fault for hooking her up with him . . . I would probably need to apologise to her, and hope she uses a driver next time, instead of the 3-iron,” said Parnevik in an interview.
But is an apology really necessary? When you set up a friend, are you also vouching for his or her character and subsequent actions? Or after the initial introduction, are you absolved of any damages incurred thereafter?
Basically, if you set up your friend with a dog, are you responsible if your friend gets fleas?
Whether deserved or not, I’ve often found the answer is yes. My matchmaking roster isn’t long: I have about three half-hearted relationships under my belt. But I always end up feeling responsible when a set-up doesn’t work out quiet like I had hoped.
One couple seemed perfect on paper and hit it off famously in person. But I didn’t factor in his shallow character traits or her dating faux-pas, and watched helplessly when they crashed and burned over a few weeks. In another instance, a girlfriend drunkenly slept with a famously unavailable bachelor that I knew, and our friendship became collateral damage when he didn’t call. That totally sucks, but is it my fault?
I figure that after I introduce two people, my job is done. We’re now grown ups and should be able to discern a good catch from the bad, regardless if they have a friend’s seal of approval.
If a matchmaker introduces a couple that eventually marries, add another to the win category. How the couple behave–or misbehave–is up to them.
But maybe I’m wrong, and a matchmaker’s recommendation at least guarantees the absence of douche-baggery.
Do you agree or disagree?
Tags: Barack Obama, dating advice, interviews, michelle obama
If there’s any dating advice you should listen to, it’s probably Michelle Obama’s. In an interview by Katie Couric for Glamour magazine’s December issue, the First Lady answers readers questions, offers advice on mentoring and style, and even includes a little tip on men:
“Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are you as a person? Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul…When you’re dating a man, you should always feel good…You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole.”
Not exactly Earth-shattering, but it’s sage advice and refreshing coming from someone who practices what she preaches.