Finding Mr. Right at Mr. Smith’s via Thread

April 1, 2010 at 7:00 am | Posted in Matchmaking, News, Thread Updates | Leave a comment

Emboldened by the success of our first two parties (and because we like free drinks as much as you do) we’re throwing down again. We’re inviting our favorite Bay Area users and encouraging them to bring their friends to our next mixer at Mr. Smiths on April 13.'s first matchmakers and singles mixer at Mr. Smith's.'s first matchmakers and singles mixer at Mr. Smith's.

No theme, holiday, or cause — just an excuse to get a bunch of matchmakers, singles, and interesting people together to make matches. To sweeten the deal, the first 150 people through the door get a free drink, and it’s half price drinks all night long.

After the event, log back onto to tell us who you thought was cute, and we’ll tell you if they liked you back. If you didn’t like someone, we promise not to tell…

More than 300 people attended our first mixer, and recorded it’s 2nd highest day of Shuffle use. I saw a few matches happen that night, and we heard stories of friends finding dates on after the event.

RSVP early to get on the guest list because we’re closing the invite list when we reach capacity. We know — so much pressure! But if you can’t make it this time, we understand. We plan on throwing more of these events, so make sure you become our fan on Facebook or follow us on Twitter to stay in the loop and attend our next party.


How to put yourself “out there” in the new year

December 28, 2009 at 10:02 am | Posted in Dating Tips, Matchmaking, News, Thread Updates | Leave a comment
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Online dating coach Laurie Davis offers tips for putting yourself "out there" in the new year.

With the New Year just a few days away, ’tis the season for lofty goals and resolutions.

But before you set yourself up with unrealistic expectations for overhauling your love life or finding “the one,” try perfecting the basics of meeting people.

Laurie Davis, an online dating coach fluent in the language of digital flirting, recommends taking proactive steps to meeting someone new rather than sitting back and waiting for the right person to fall in your lap. And that starts with putting down the remote and putting yourself “out there.”

Davis suggests updating your online dating profile and keeping it fresh and active to stay at the top of the search results. And if you’re constantly on the go, take your profile with you by using mobile dating apps such as Skout, and attend as many singles events as your schedule and wallet will allow.

But our favorite suggestion of hers is to leverage your social network to meet new people:

Social Networking. Make sure that you are connected on FaceBook, LinkedIn, Twitter and the like.  You can use these sites to contact new matches and gain the interest of your friends’ single pals.  Thread even helps the process along!

This year resolve to recruit your friends to join and ask them to introduce you to their single Facebook friends.


Crowd sourcing your love life

December 22, 2009 at 8:30 am | Posted in Matchmaking, News, Social Media | 1 Comment
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Rather than randomly trawl the internet for Mr Right, Sarah Stokely plans to date 100 bachelors "recommended by actual humans". Photo: Simon O'Dwyer

Frustrating dating experiences often make people turn their love lives over to a matchmaker. But how bad would it have to be before you turn yours over to Twitter?

That’s what one single Australian gal is doing. Unable to find her perfect match on her own, Sarah Stokely’s letting her matchmakers do the grunt work for her — all 1,694 of them and counting.

Part social media experiment, part summer fling(s), the 36-year-old media consultant is counting on her Twitter followers to set her up on 100 blind dates and watch (or is it read?) her love life unfold online.

Stokely calls it ”crowd-sourcing for pleasure.”

By reaching far out into her social network, she’s hoping someone she knows can do a better job than online dating sites of finding her the man of her dreams. Or at least a decent dinner date.

Stokely is quoted in the The Sydney Morning Herald:

”I was hoping people who had been recommended by actual humans will be better than what has turned out for me under that online dating process,” she says. ”It’s nice not to be that passive person with their photo up on a website, hoping someone will talk to them. It’s actually going out there and saying, ‘Hey, I want this to happen and it will be fun’, and people are responding to that.”

But before you recommend she meet your second cousin who’s a huge surfing fan, not so fast: she won’t accept a date with just anyone (she’s not *that* desperate). Potential daters must nominate themselves or be recommended for a date by a friend and complete a questionnaire that will be scruntized by 100 random Twitter follower pundits. Hence, the matchmaking.

Stokely has had requests from friends for similar dating “crowdsourcing” websites.

A similar approach, albeit a much less public experience, would be to use to get your friends to play matchmaker for you with people from their Facebook friends network.

Source: The Sydney Morning Herald

Couples edition of VH1 Tough Love coming soon

December 16, 2009 at 12:00 pm | Posted in Celebrity Relationships, Matchmaking, News | Leave a comment
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Tough Love matchmaker Steve Ward is on a mission to get the female population relationship ready, 10 women at a time.

His hit series is currently casting for season 3, but before Ward and his mom try to shake some common sense into the next batch of dating disasters, the matchmaking team is going to work some magic on five couples on the verge of tying the knot.

Here’s what they’re looking for, according to the casting call for Tough Love Couples on

Do you wonder if your partner is really “The One”?
Are you ready for a ring, but your boyfriend won’t take that leap?
Has your relationship lost its spark and you’re not sure if you can get it back?
Is your relationship at the “make or break” point?

VH1 and Master Matchmakers Steve and JoAnn Ward are in search of unmarried COUPLES who have reached a crossroads in their relationship and are looking for help.

The couples will be put through the paces of a relationship boot camp, and at the end Ward will declare them either marriage material or relationship wrecks.

But will the couples take his advice?

While half of a matchmaker’s job is being a dating coach, I’d be a little skeptical about taking pre-marital counseling from the duo. Either way, it should make for interesting television.

Apply for the show at

Source: Reuters

Playing matchmaker…for your ex?

December 16, 2009 at 8:00 am | Posted in Celebrity Relationships, Matchmaking | Leave a comment
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Credit: Nynne Katrine Davidsen

I don’t follow a lot of celebrity gossip, but I remember seeing tabloid photos and headlines of the Kate Moss/Pete Doherty relationship, and it wasn’t pretty.

Their tumultuous two-year relationship was marred by drug use and jealous rages, finally ending in 2007.

While Moss has moved on, Doherty isn’t out of her life — she’s trying to be his matchmaker, according to a recent AOL UK article.

Sounds sweet, but maybe not the best idea at this time — the girl she has in mind for her ex is the band mate of her current boyfriend, Jamie Hince of The Kills. Maybe a little too close for comfort?

Questionable dating and matchmaking skills aside (I mean, would you take dating advice from Kate Moss?), is it ever a good idea to set up your ex?

In my experience, it rarely works out in your favor. If the new couple hits it off, you probably just lost a friend, because while you want to have lots of things in common with your friends, dating histories isn’t one of them.

Admittedly, I’m not one of those overly well-adjusted people who is totally cool with their friends sleeping with their exes, but not for the obvious reasons. I can get past the whole sex thing and jealously (I think), but I’m not a fan of the dating dirt that is often dug up when a new relationship begins, especially when the dirt is about me.

And while at the time I think I’m doing my ex a favor, I’m probably not doing myself any by keeping past relationships in the present, possibly upsetting my current main squeeze.

But that’s just me.

Source: AOL UK

Bankers need love, too

December 8, 2009 at 12:46 pm | Posted in Matchmaking, News | Leave a comment
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When your profession becomes synonymous with greed and is perceived responsible for tanking the global economy, you could probably use a little help finding love.

Not that your judgement is in question, which it is, but it helps to have an extra set of hands drumming up a little PR campaign, running interference on your profession’s behalf, and finding the 6 percent of women who don’t resent your being.

Good luck with that!

That’s where Samantha Daniels fits in. She specializes in finding love for bankers in NY and LA, and despite the $25,000 price tag for her services, she has seen a 30 percent increase in revenue. Would it be a stretch to tie her increased business to the drop in sex workers’ bottom line?

Daniels gave an interview to Fortune magazine to shed light on the  dating dilemmas of financiers. On the upside, bankers are now looking for more than physical characteristics and requesting “stand by your man” type of women. On the downside, they’re still men and want their Tammy Wynette-esq woman to be a supermodel with a Harvard education.

And if you’re a banker but can’t afford her services, here are some dating tips from the Wall Street Matchmaker:

  • Don’t complain about how bad you’re doing financially, especially if they’re doing worse e.g., don’t complain about not getting your bonus this year. No one did.
  • Be subtle when bragging. “For example, a typical first-date conversation is travel. Say you have a house in the Hamptons. Start by asking her, how did you spend your summer? Did you go away? She’ll probably turn it around, then you can bring it up. In a passive, conversational way, it becomes obvious that you’re doing well.”
  • Sell yourself, not your occupation. Since “I manage a hedge fund” no longer is a slam dunk for getting the girl, you may have to rely on your personality. Yeah….no….on second thought, you’re probably better off selling your occupation.

Source: Fortune

Tiger and Elin: Matchmaking win or fail?

December 7, 2009 at 1:19 pm | Posted in Celebrity Relationships, Dating Stories, Matchmaking | 1 Comment
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When you set up a gorgeous ex-model nanny with a billionaire golfer and they end up marrying, you’re proudly responsible for the marriage of the century.

But when the athlete shows his strips ends up cheating on his wife with not one, but almost a dozen cut-rate barflies, do you also become responsible for the crappiest marriage of the century?

That’s what happened to Swedish golfer Jesper Parnevik and his wife, Mia, who introduced their former nanny, Elin Nordegren, to Tiger Woods in 2001. He was quoted saying “they are a perfect match,” when they their relationship became public, and explained that Tiger had begged him to set them up.

But one marriage, two kids, and, eight years, and nine mistresses (and still counting) later, Parnevik recently expressed their regret for setting up the two, and publicly apologized to Elin for his mismatch.

“I feel really sorry for Elin, since me and my wife were at fault for hooking her up with him . . . I would probably need to apologise to her, and hope she uses a driver next time, instead of the 3-iron,” said Parnevik in an interview.

But is an apology really necessary? When you set up a friend, are you also vouching for his or her character and subsequent actions? Or after the initial introduction, are you absolved of any damages incurred thereafter?

Basically, if you set up your friend with a dog, are you responsible if your friend gets fleas?

Whether deserved or not, I’ve often found the answer is yes. My matchmaking roster isn’t long: I have about three half-hearted relationships under my belt. But I always end up feeling responsible when a set-up doesn’t work out quiet like I had hoped.

One couple seemed perfect on paper and hit it off famously in person. But I didn’t factor in his shallow character traits or her dating faux-pas, and watched helplessly when they crashed and burned over a few weeks. In another instance, a girlfriend drunkenly slept with a famously unavailable bachelor that I knew, and our friendship became collateral damage when he didn’t call. That totally sucks, but is it my fault?

I figure that after I introduce two people, my job is done. We’re now grown ups and should be able to discern a good catch from the bad, regardless if they have a friend’s seal of approval.

If a matchmaker introduces a couple that eventually marries, add another to the win category. How the couple behave–or misbehave–is up to them.

But maybe I’m wrong, and a matchmaker’s recommendation at least guarantees the absence of douche-baggery.

Do you agree or disagree?

The new “double dating”

November 30, 2009 at 8:00 am | Posted in Dating Tips, Matchmaking, News | Leave a comment
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New dating tip: before going out on a blind date, check your rolodex to see if you've already met the person.

New question to ask before being set up on a blind date: Have I already been set up with her?

The only thing worse than an awkward blind date is being set up on another blind date with that same person. Again.

That really happened to Scott Alan Mantz, film critic for “Access Hollywood,” whose recent marriage to actress Andrea Ronni Sabesin was profiled in the New York Times Weddings and Celebrations:

Mr. Mantz’s moment of truth was on a particularly awkward blind date: “We met at the restaurant, and I realized I had gone out with her 10 years before,” he said.

Awwwwkward. Is the world really so small and the dating pool so shallow that if you stay single long enough you will run out of new people to date? Mantz’ story may sound extreme, but he’s not alone. A search on the subject quickly turned up another disaster about a woman who has been set up on a blind date with the same person twice multiple times.

If this happens to you, either fate is telling you something or you need to expand your search a bit. But until then there’s no harm in erring on the side of caution and asking for details before a setup while cross-checking your dating resume to make sure you’re not double dating the same person. Or ask for a photo.

5 Reasons to Go on a Blind Date

November 23, 2009 at 9:33 am | Posted in Dating Tips, Matchmaking | Leave a comment
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Your friends may have the best intentions when it comes to setting you up on a blind date, but they don’t always have the best taste. Blind dates from hell make “You should meet my friend” seem like the five scariest words ever told to a single person.

But if you’ve sworn off meeting your friend’s friends, perhaps you should reconsider: 34 percent of married couples say they met through family or friends, according to The Pew Internet and American Life Online Dating survey.

Not convinced the odds are in your favor? Here are five reasons to accept a blind date:

You already have one thing in common: Many blind daters struggle to find common ground with a total stranger, but at least on a setup through friends you’ll be able to dish about someone you both know. If you both have the same friend, you will likely share other common interests.

Your friends won’t set you up with a douche: At least they shouldn’t. Your friends are your first line of defense when it comes to judging character, and with them arranging the date, you can be reasonably confident that he or she won’t be a total ass.

Your friends know you better than you think: Given the dating resume you’ve presented to your friends and family, they know you pretty well. More important than knowing ” your type,” they know the type of person you really should be dating instead of the losers who normally drive you crazy and break your heart. And better yet, they can warn your date of your dating deal-killers and hot buttons which will hopefully make the first date run a little more smoothly.

You’ve been meaning to expand your social circle anyway: It would be unfair to expect every blind date to be “the one” (plus it’s huge pressure on the matchmaker). But it could be the one who leads you to the one. Expanding your social network opens a lot of opportunities — romantic and otherwise. You may not find the perfect match, but you might make a new friend.

You might actually have fun: Breaking out of your old patterns and meeting someone new doesn’t have to hurt. In fact, make a point to enjoy yourself by trying a new restaurant or dragging your date to that movie you’ve been wanting to see but couldn’t find anyone to go with. But whether you explore a new neighborhood or play it safe at your favorite dive, dinner or drinks with someone new –especially if they have news stories to tell about your common friends– can be a surprisingly nice way to spend a few hours.

Single female seeking tall, dark, and good credit

November 19, 2009 at 7:00 am | Posted in Dating Statistics, Dating Tips, Matchmaking | 2 Comments
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Add this to the list of dating criteria you have to worry about matching out there.

Some matchmakers are checking credit scores along with dating preferences when it comes to new clients. But it’s not so much about gold-digging as it is about finding a compatible partner.

“Financial attitudes are a very important part of a match. Somebody who is budget-minded is not going to be compatible with someone who is going to spend it before they get it,” Perfectly Matched CEO Donna Shugrue said in an article about matchmaking.

The tough economic climate is forcing people to re-access what’s really important to them when it comes to the perfect date — financial stability is now a top-three dating requirement, she says.

What do you think? Would you refuse to date someone you liked because they had bad credit? Take our poll:


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