A Toast to Jim and JennyApril 7, 2010 at 10:31 am | Posted in Dating Tips, Relationships | Leave a comment
Tags: break up, Celebrity Relationships, tristan coopersmith
It’s not my forte to dish on celeb couplings and decouplings. After all, who am I to have an opinion about people I don’t know, not to mention I consider celebs people just like you and I (particularly the likes of Jim Carrey – I’ve had lunch with him and he couldn’t be sweeter, smarter, more real). Buuuuuuuut… yesterday when Jim and Jenny announced the news of their breakup, surprisingly to me, I was profoundly struck. If you missed it, the twosome left little for speculation (in a very unHollywood move), by personally and very maturely (which only makes me love them that much more) announcing their breakup via Twitter:
Jim Carrey: Jenny and I have just ended our 5yr relationship. I’m grateful 4 the many blessings we’ve shared and I wish her the very best! S’okay!
Jenny McCarthy: Im so grateful for the years Jim and I had together. I will stay committed to Jane and will always keep Jim as a leading man in my heart.
As expected the wire went abuzz with questions surrounding what could have gone wrong, especially since they seemed like the perfect couple, publicly supporting each other and just as recently as Valentine’s Day Jenny offered up a grand display of love in the sky for Jim, to which he replied via Twitter his massive appreciation and love for Jenny. Frankly though, I could care less… that’s between the two of them. I think, the media focus should be on what went right. Finally, a high profile celeb couple separated respectfully. But you won’t see the media cover that. It will dig for shame, betrayal, dirt of any kind. That’s how jaded we’ve become. My guess – it won’t find any. But instead of shining a teachable light on this wonderful couple, it will just move on to find an ugly, scandal-ridden breakup.
So, I want to take a minute to toast J2 for being a healthy couple. A couple that charted their relationship course with open eyes and open hearts… all the way to the end of the road… unafraid to go the distance even if it meant parting ways. Parting ways gives them each the freedom to find love on another path. That is the greatest gift two people who truly love each other can give. Walking away when you know your destination is headed towards a dead end or to a destructive place is a huge sign of strength; conversely, it is the weak that stay fooling themselves into thinking that they are warriors fighting for something that is already nothing, too afraid to go it alone.
I want to toast them for breaking up with respect for each other and gratitude for the time they had with each other which. Having done this will help them kickstart their individual healing process that much faster.
And further they should also be commended for being amazing role models to their kids, who obviously were an integral part of their relationship. The way they have handled this will make it much easier on two innocent children who reaped the benefits of the love between Jim and Jenny but will also miss their union.
So here’s to Jim and Jenny for teaching all of us how to care for a relationship all the way to the end, how to be grateful for it and how to gift each other new opportunities to love. May their next chapters be as bright as this last one.
Live and love largely,
Tristan Coopersmith is a love stylist, helping women architect their ideal love lives. She is also the author of MENu Dating: Taste Test Your Way to the Main Course– a single girl’s guide to falling in like, falling in love and falling into bed. Check out her book in retailers nationwide, online and on her site: http://www.menudatingonline.com. For musings on dating, follow her on twitter: @tristan_coop.