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Tristan Coopersmith is a love stylist, helping women architect their ideal love lives. She is also the author of MENu Dating: Taste Test Your Way to the Main Course– a single girl’s guide to falling in like, falling in love and falling into bed. Check out her book in retailers nationwide, online and on her site: http://www.menudatingonline.com. For musings on dating, follow her on twitter: @tristan_coop.
To become an ace student of dating, it is all about putting what you learn into action. Burying yourself in textbooks and lessons can only take you so far so here is a cliff notes, crash course in dating designed to give you insta-success this weekend out in the dating playground. Don’t worry about failing – there is no such thing – it is all about risking error to learn from the trial. So study your ABCs and have fun in the field! I look forward to hearing about what you learn!
Tags: Dating Tips, finding dates, friends, meeting through friends, single city guy
Single City Guy is a dating blogger who lives in New York City (Brooklyn to be exact.) He shares his dating stories, experiences, advice and the male prospective of dating thru his blog at singlecityguy.com Single City Guy will frequently post his dating stories (the good, the bad and the ugly) on the Thread Blog. This story was originally posted here.
This weekend after Christmas was very interesting. A friend of mine needed a place to stay, and I was on his short list. He was spending time in New York City for the next two weeks and some of his plans fell thru. He had one of two options, call me or become a bum on the street. I was able to accommodate for the space and allow him to hang out in a free room (no couch sleeping during the winter, that’s just rude)! Sunday, we went to a brunch where we were meeting a few of his friends. All of these individuals were in the tech and social media arena, and two of them were hot women.
It was odd, being in the arena for years I usually end up meeting pretentious beautiful women, or geeks who scare women away. This group wasn’t any of the above, and were a very cool and interesting bunch. I also realized, this is the group I should be hanging around more often, and where I could have a better chance of finding a potential date who met my interests. I wouldn’t have been exposed to them if it wasn’t for my friend. Continue Reading Don’t Underestimate The Dating Potential Thru Friendships…
Tags: 2010, Dating Tips
Consider it this way: you have 11 more months until the 2010 holiday season to find someone new. But if you keep doing the same things you did last year to meet a guy or girl, you’ll end up at the same place: alone at the kiddie table at Thanksgiving, taking your best friend to the company holiday party, and no one to kiss on New Year’s Eve.
Before you start signing up for every dating service offering a coupon or promotion to avoid the fate of the single guy, start with a few personal improvements that will make dating more effective this year.
Improve your attitude. I’ll spare you the hokey spiel on the power of positive thinking, but imagine that you had a friend or were set up with someone who constantly complained about their inability to find a good guy or girl, or bitched about all their bad dates, or trashed every person to whom you wanted to introduce. I recently was speaking with a girl who got out of a six month relationship and wanted to meet someone new. She didn’t want to try online dating, she didn’t want to date anyone under 6’4“ (she was 5’4”) and she didn’t want to join any technology centric groups where there were sure to be guys (kill me now, was her response). But she did want me to introduce her to guys I knew. But the way I felt about it was, why should I help you when you don’t want to help yourself? If you’re going to poo poo all my suggestions and probably all my friends, you’re on your own. But I have another friend who basically has only two requirements for a set up: be single, and be around 30 years old. She’s a matchmaker’s dream. Cute, friendly, outgoing, and willing to try anything. If you appear more open minded and positive about new experiences–even if they don’t work out–people will be more willing to help you out. And that girl who only dated tall guys? I think she’s still single.
Let go of bad relationships. You’ve stopped dating them, now you need to stop thinking about them, talking to them, talking about them, and basically letting them anywhere near your social life. I’m not saying that you have to banish your ex from your life all together, but you must give yourself the space to meet someone new. Because as long as you have the security blanket of walking down memory lane with your old squeeze or are spending time with your ex when you could be out looking for Next, you are going to be complacent at dating and missing opportunities and signals for meeting someone new. Maybe you’re holding on to your past love life because you want to avoid giving your full attention and self–and all the responsibilities that comes with it–to someone new. But you’re only shooting yourself in the foot, because if your ex is fulfilling your emotional needs, you won’t make room for someone else to come into your life because that seat is already taken.
Accept invitations. Do you have friends who are picky invitation acceptors? Because I do, and those girls are single. If you’re in the habit of cherry picking the events that you want to attend, you’re missing out on some opportunities to meet new people, and that same closed-minded attitude could be holding you back from opening yourself up to new experiences and letting people in.
Work your network. Let your friends know that you’re serious about meeting someone new and are open to being set up on dates. It’s true, “blind date” are two of the scariest words ever strung together, but for many people it’s a chance try new restaurants, drag someone to that movie they’ve been wanting to see, expand their social network, and maybe, possibly, hopefully find someone great. You may not know anyone who’s single, but your friends do. Work Facebook and Thread.com to date from your friends’ social networks.
Pay it forward. If you’re single, then you definitely have time for volunteering or charity work. Doing good in the world also provides personal benefits — it not only improves mental health and lowers the risk of health disease, but it’s a great place to meet like-minded people.