Bankers need love, too

December 8, 2009 at 12:46 pm | Posted in Matchmaking, News | Leave a comment
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When your profession becomes synonymous with greed and is perceived responsible for tanking the global economy, you could probably use a little help finding love.

Not that your judgement is in question, which it is, but it helps to have an extra set of hands drumming up a little PR campaign, running interference on your profession’s behalf, and finding the 6 percent of women who don’t resent your being.

Good luck with that!

That’s where Samantha Daniels fits in. She specializes in finding love for bankers in NY and LA, and despite the $25,000 price tag for her services, she has seen a 30 percent increase in revenue. Would it be a stretch to tie her increased business to the drop in sex workers’ bottom line?

Daniels gave an interview to Fortune magazine to shed light on the  dating dilemmas of financiers. On the upside, bankers are now looking for more than physical characteristics and requesting “stand by your man” type of women. On the downside, they’re still men and want their Tammy Wynette-esq woman to be a supermodel with a Harvard education.

And if you’re a banker but can’t afford her services, here are some dating tips from the Wall Street Matchmaker:

  • Don’t complain about how bad you’re doing financially, especially if they’re doing worse e.g., don’t complain about not getting your bonus this year. No one did.
  • Be subtle when bragging. “For example, a typical first-date conversation is travel. Say you have a house in the Hamptons. Start by asking her, how did you spend your summer? Did you go away? She’ll probably turn it around, then you can bring it up. In a passive, conversational way, it becomes obvious that you’re doing well.”
  • Sell yourself, not your occupation. Since “I manage a hedge fund” no longer is a slam dunk for getting the girl, you may have to rely on your personality. Yeah….no….on second thought, you’re probably better off selling your occupation.

Source: Fortune

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The new “double dating”

November 30, 2009 at 8:00 am | Posted in Dating Tips, Matchmaking, News | Leave a comment
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New dating tip: before going out on a blind date, check your rolodex to see if you've already met the person.

New question to ask before being set up on a blind date: Have I already been set up with her?

The only thing worse than an awkward blind date is being set up on another blind date with that same person. Again.

That really happened to Scott Alan Mantz, film critic for “Access Hollywood,” whose recent marriage to actress Andrea Ronni Sabesin was profiled in the New York Times Weddings and Celebrations:

Mr. Mantz’s moment of truth was on a particularly awkward blind date: “We met at the restaurant, and I realized I had gone out with her 10 years before,” he said.

Awwwwkward. Is the world really so small and the dating pool so shallow that if you stay single long enough you will run out of new people to date? Mantz’ story may sound extreme, but he’s not alone. A search on the subject quickly turned up another disaster about a woman who has been set up on a blind date with the same person twice multiple times.

If this happens to you, either fate is telling you something or you need to expand your search a bit. But until then there’s no harm in erring on the side of caution and asking for details before a setup while cross-checking your dating resume to make sure you’re not double dating the same person. Or ask for a photo.

Online dating rule: never send money to someone you haven’t met

November 24, 2009 at 8:03 am | Posted in Dating Stories, Dating Tips, News, Online Dating | Leave a comment
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This should have been a no-brainer, but apparently a man swindled almost £100 from British women he met on FriendsReunited.com, a UK-based dating website.

By posing as a U.S. Special Forces officer called Captain Antonio Grosso, a supposed Afghanistan war hero, the con artist spun tales of caring for his cancer stricken son after his wife died three years ago. And by the way, would you mind lending me £450 to pay for his hospital bill. You will? Great, just wire the money to this Nigerian bank account…

Using a fabricated profile, fake pictures, legitimate seeming email addresses, and forged military emails and documents,  the man was able to gain the trust of up to 20 women, including a banker and an ex-police officer, proving once again that love is truly blind.

Although he spoke to the women nightly–proposing to one– each of the women were guilty of the first rule of internet dating: never send money to someone you’ve never met in person. And even then, why do you want to date someone with that much baggage and needs to borrow money?

A modest effort to combat the problem is RomanceScams.org, a site that tracks online dating scammers. Think you’re communicating with an online romance scammer? Take this quiz to find out.

Source: People.co.uk

Does online dating enable cougars?

November 13, 2009 at 12:00 pm | Posted in Dating Statistics, News, Online Dating | 1 Comment
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Celebrities and the internet are making it easier and more acceptable for women to date younger men. Pictured: a cougar with her cub, not a date.

It is perhaps the least surprising dating statistic ever: one in three middle-aged women want a boy toy, according to a survey by UK dating site Parship.com.

No, I am surprised. Why isn’t that statistic higher?

But apparently the trend of dating younger men is a revelation for many women, and a lot more mainstream than just five years ago, when only eight percent of women said they were interested in dating a younger man.

How times have changed.

Celebrity “cougar” relationships — such as Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher– and the internet and making it easier and for older women to date a younger man, according to Dr Victoria Lukats, psychiatrist and Parship’s dating expert.

Spinning it nicely, Dr. Lukatst said, “Internet dating also encourages people to focus on what’s really important in a relationship and for many women, their priority becomes finding a partner with whom they are compatible, irrespective of age.”

Which country has the least attractive online daters?

November 12, 2009 at 11:45 am | Posted in Dating Statistics, News, Online Dating | 1 Comment
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Norwegian, Swedish, and Brazilians fare the best on BeautifulPeople.com, while Brits, such as its managing director Greg Hodge (left) are the least successful. But would Dane founder Robert Hintze (right) be accepted to his own site after his hairline finishes receding?

Norwegian, Swedish, and Brazilians fare the best on BeautifulPeople.com, while Brits, such as its managing director Greg Hodge (left) are the least successful. But would Dane founder Robert Hintze (right) be accepted to his own site after his hairline finishes receding?

 

Rejection by a date is hard enough, but how bad must it feel to be rejected by the entire dating site for being unattractive?
Ask a Brit. Only 12 percent of British men and 15 percent of British women have been accepted by super-shallow dating site BeautifulPeople.com, according to an article in The Telegraph. This statistic officially steals the “Dating Douche” title away from iPhone users and bestows it on BeautifulPeople.com founder, Robert Hintze.
The Danish website has existing members judge new applicant photos over a 48-hour period with answers ranging from ‘Yes definitely’, ‘Hmmm yes, OK’, ‘Hmmm no, not really’ and ‘NO definitely NOT.’

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Dating advice from the First Lady

November 11, 2009 at 1:44 pm | Posted in Celebrity Relationships, Dating Tips, News | 1 Comment
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If there’s any dating advice you should listen to, it’s probably Michelle Obama’s. In an interview by Katie Couric for Glamour magazine’s December issue, the First Lady answers readers questions, offers advice on mentoring and style, and even includes a little tip on men:

“Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are you as a person? Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul…When you’re dating a man, you should always feel good…You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole.”

Not exactly Earth-shattering, but it’s sage advice and refreshing coming from someone who practices what she preaches.

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Are iPhone users the new dating douches?

November 11, 2009 at 8:09 am | Posted in News | 1 Comment
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One in three iPhone owners has texted or emailed their significant other to break up, according to a gadget survey conducted by Retrevo. Twice as many iPhone users than Blackberry users admit to viewing porn on their smartphones, and they are also more likely than their Blackberry counterparts to be turned off by their partner’s use of an out-of-date gadget of some sort, confirming the widespread belief that Apple aficionados are snobs.

Does this study mean that consumers preference for sleek and shiny touch-screen mobile devices are cold, sex hungry, heartbreakers?

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Can you judge people by their Facebook picture?

November 10, 2009 at 9:41 am | Posted in Dating Tips, News, Social Media | Leave a comment
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Introvert or extrovert? Students in a Sonoma State University were able to accurately judge personality traits most of the time based only on photographs, whether they were staged or not. Credit: Laura Naumann

Consider yourself warned. Facebook is the ubiquitous cross-check for researching the lives and real personalities of prospective employees, friends, and dates. And a recent study confirmed what you already suspected: you are being judged by your photographs, and apparently quite accurately.

We’re not just talking about the ones of you dressed in drag or doing keg stands (although those are also very telling). Photographs contain subtle non-verbal clues that viewers use to identify the subject’s personality traits with surprisingly scary accuracy.

The experiment conducted by researchers at Sonoma State University (who knew they did research there?) used 12 students to judge 123 photos of undergraduate students they had never met before. Half of the viewers judged the undergraduates’ photos in a neutral pose, while the other six judged the same undergraduates in a spontaneous pose. The photographs were judged by the viewers based on 10 personality traits: extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, emotional stability, openness (open to experience), likability, self-esteem, loneliness, religiosity and political orientation.

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Which of these online profiles is real?

November 9, 2009 at 9:54 am | Posted in Dating Tips, News | 2 Comments
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Which of these Redhotpie members are real? The Australian company is facing a lawsuit for creating and using fake profiles to flirt with registered customers.

Misrepresentation of physical stats and outdated photos is almost expected on online dating sites. But who would expect the profile to be entirely fake?

No, we’re not talking about Craigslist’s Casual Encounters.

Redhotpie.com.au, an Australian adult online dating site, is facing legal action by the Australian Competition and Consumer Commission (ACCC) for creating and using fake profiles to flirt with its registered customers.

Apparently this practice — known as seeding — is common in the online and offline dating industry to attract customers, pad user numbers, and balance guy-to-girl ratios. It’s definitely lame, but is it illegal?

Match.com and Yahoo! Personals has been accused of this practice and have faced a couple of lawsuits in past years. Recently, one Brooklynite filed a $5 million lawsuit against Match.com for wasting his time and bruising his ego. He eventually dropped the lawsuit because of massive online ridicule, especially after it was revealed that he had found a girlfriend on the same site he accused of misleading him.

So how do you spot a fake profile?

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Movember: good for fighting cancer, bad for dating

November 8, 2009 at 8:26 pm | Posted in News | Leave a comment
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Credit: Movember Foundation

What started out as a joke excuse by a group of guys in Australia back in 2003 for sporting 80’s style stashes has turned into an annual fundraiser prostate cancer research. Movember, the month-long mustache-growing charity event, is doing a great job raising money and awareness for prostate cancer, but it’s doing nothing to help a guy get a date.

Movember is more like the anti-bachelor charity auction, where the more money you raise, the less likely you’re going home with a girl. Guys, chalk stashes up there with cars with tailfins — they went out of style in the 80s for a reason, and unlike leg warmers, haven’t come back.

If you disagree, this post from Jezebel –complete with the worst stashes from back issues of Playgirl– says it all.

But not all facial hair is bad. Guys sporting a light stubble are deemed “tough, mature, aggressive, dominant and masculine – and as the best romantic partners, either for a fling or a long-term relationships,” according to a study by psychologists at Northumbria University.

timmyMovember is worthy cause, no doubt about that, but if you’re a single guy trying to impress the ladies with your charity work, donate rather than grow your own.

On that note, Timmy Levad, business development manager at Cisco, raised $1580 last year for Movember. He doesn’t have to worry about his mustachio being a chick-repellent because he’s married. You can sponsor him at: http://us.movember.com/mospace/6188

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